Do you take PTO at work to help your aging parents? Medical procedures like joint replacements, heart procedures and cancer treatments are common among those over age 65.
Your aging parent may exude health, especially for their age. But it is likely they will experience a serious medical procedure.
Do you need to take time off work in order to help?
Potentially, yes. But you may be able to show up for your parent while getting some work done using the tips below.
Six Tips to Waiting Room Productivity
- Prepare to be your parent’s medical advocate.
Before the procedure, discuss what role they would like you to play in different scenarios, both if it goes smoothly and if there are complications.
- Create a medical document planner with your parent.
Ensure you have copies of their driver’s license, insurance cards, advance directive, medical history and medication list. Make sure you know which pharmacy they use. Both digital and paper copies are useful. A planner like this one is helpful.
- Recognize post-surgery support will take more time than you expect. Transportation to follow-up appointments, support through medication reactions and personal assistance may be needed. Enlist other family members to help ahead of time. If you are providing the physical follow-up care yourself, remember self-care so that you can show up as your best self.
- Research outside help, even if you think you won’t use it.
Knowing where and how you would get additional care support gives you peace of mind and allows you to meet your other work and family commitments. Consider getting a home health aide or checking into a rehab facility. Either one takes the physical burden off family members and offers built-in physical therapy. Research providers and read reviews at the unbiased Care Compare.
Many employers offer caregiver support as a part of your benefit package. Ask your HR department to offer the Ways & Wane benefit.
- Be present in order to honor your parent.
Try to avoid scheduling critical meetings on the day of the procedure, even if you are working in the waiting room. You don’t want to be on an important call when the doctor comes out to give an update.
- Prepare your hospital “go” bag.
Take your work with you. Procedures can be delayed or prolonged. Make sure you have power cords, earbuds, snacks, water and a sweater or light blanket in case your waiting time gets extended.
Download a free guide “How to Balance Work with Your Parent’s Medical Procedure” to share on your company’s Slack or with your HR team.
Care well; work well.
Debbie McDonald is the founder of Ways & Wane, simplifying eldercare decisions for working professionals. She lives in Northern California with her husband.
